- Tools, Tips & Techniques
There are simply many, many Tools, Tips and Techniques to choose from. We will be offering you a select set that you should examine and where appropriate, adapt and adopt.
We would however like to start by asking you to think about what THINGS THAT YOU SHOULD STOP DOING that could make a difference in both your personal and working life.
The idea here has a lot to do with the work and writings of Marshall Goldsmith, the executive coach and leadership guru. Marshall’s focus is on people who are successful in the first place but who want to be even more successful. [You will see a more full account of his work in the Thought Leadership Section].
Marshall has identified a long list of “annoying interpersonal behaviours” or habits [yes all soft and fluffy stuff but with serious consequences] that hold us back from becoming more successful. They include behaviours which and they include:
1. whinning too much
2. adding too much value
3. passing judgement
4. making destructive comments
5. starting with “no”, “ but” or “however”
6. telling the world how smart we are
7. speaking when angry
8. negativity “let me explain why that wont work”
9. withholding information
10. failing to give proper recognition
11. claiming the credit that we don’t deserve
12. making excuses
13. clinging to the past
14. playing favourites
15. refusing to express regret
16. not listening
17. failing to express gratitude
18. punishing the messenger
19. passing the buck
20. an excessive need to be “me”.
A long list indeed and some we readily recognise in our own behaviour. The success of Marshall Goldsmith’s work though is about enabling individuals to identify interpersonal behaviours that affects their performance as well as the every day actions that they can stop or change to make a difference.
TOOL TIP AND TECHNIQUE 1: Things that I should stop doing that can make a difference to my work.
1. So what will be on your list? [Please make a list here]
2. Ask your family members , friend and yes work colleagues as to the habits that you stop doing?
3. Stop doing the things listed. After a few weeks or so, reflect as to what difference it is making and ask for feed back as to how others your change in behaviour.
